Bullies …
Some time ago my daughter ran into an assault situation. She and a friend were threatened with a bat. I told my friends about it on face book. Most of the time I can say, hey, this is just a play for attention … the girls were shaking and faded looking after the incident. so I really had no choice but to believe the situation. Come to find out the boys were provoked. I don’t blame them especially with all the taboo still about alternate lifestyles. After confrontation with the whole situation, it was resolved. I am not completely satisfied but as a whole things ended peacefully. Findings … Wolf had been cried. During this investigation, I was told that it is the job of the Staff to look for patterns that point toward bullying … I just have one question in this building of patterns: have you looked at yourself, and the actions of your staff? I see some patterns there myself that point to what you, yourself, are looking for.
remembrance …
This last weekend made me cry. I couldn’t help it. I guess this year I actually did what the last monday in May is meant for. Reflection of those that have gone before us. Memorial Day was originally set up to commemorate the loss of soldiers that served during the American civil war, but was extended later to include all of our fallen. Specifically military members that I have lost in my life in the past, most of the time I light a candle in my window to remember them by.
My Grandfather died a few years ago, it wasn’t the emphysema, the congestive heart failure or the cancer that got him, it was the Stroke. Tough and amazing man. This man was a ww2 Veteran, an engineer, an artist, and a patriot. Apparently at one point before the pain of cancer had gotten too bad. He had been crawling around the insides of his church doing the sound wiring for them. Dedicated, to the last. I still mourn his absence in my life, though the influence and legacy he left all of us will burn for years to come.
Chuck, an airman whose life was taken by another airman. He was a shy and gentle person with a quick wit and wry humor. We got along very well. He made me look at things another way. We lost touch after highschool and I never truly got to say goodbye, perhaps in another place?
The unknown soldier in my life. Uncle Fred. The man died before I ever met his nephew. The legacy he left behind for us is a convoluted history of what things were, the man served in ww2 but did agree with some of the ideals of communism in its purest form. He filled my husband with fond memories which are shared at times with me.
Weight-loss …
It’s inevitable that a troll will eventually rear its ugly head on my sites, I think we all do have them. I received a comment on my other page that left me rather angry. It took me a few days to recover, to find my way out of that wonderful dark cloud that such things inevitably cause. I guess I’ve got such a tender skin. Some one once advised my to learn to grow a teflon skin instead. I tried that and lost myself. I guess getting hurt just means I am still human. This person with the screen name of Thomas left disparaging notes about my weight, assumed my eating habits as the stereo typical fluffy person’s diet of all things fried (blech, unless its cauliflower, green beans, or zucchini for a nice treat) and that I do not exercise. Its just another reflection of what our world is becoming: a bundle of extreme assumption. I prefer apples to Oreos, I do not drink soda on a daily or even weekly basis, and I walk or do that wonderfully releasing activity known as Yoga. I have been contemplating some dancing … (I am not sure this white woman can or should dance) … call it another fear of mine to face, my lack of rhythm. I am going to be weighing in officially soon and I will be updating my weight across the board. I have also joined into a biggest looser contest at work 🙂 wish me luck.